So, how do you go from crazy and wild college aged spending phenom to reforming optimist.
1. Awareness
Before I started down this path to my own little economic recovery, I wasn't aware that I was in my own little economic crisis. It's silly but if you're reading a personal finance blog, you probably know exactly what I'm talking about (unawareness) and furthermore, you probably understand that it's not really silly of me, but just silly because you now know better. After all, they don't teach you this stuff in school and depending on your parents, you might've been completely sheltered from the household finances.
Anyways, awareness came to me in several stages that can be briefly summed up in the following sentence. I visited an older friend's house and thought it was awesome and wanted to have a house just like his and several months later, discovered the personal finance blogosphere where I promptly learned how badly I was misbehaving.
2. Commitment
It's one thing to want something, it's another ball game altogether to actual make it happen. This is true of most things. In this case, after months of blogging and reading, I knew enough to get out of debt, but not enough to stay out of debt. I knew enough about what to do, but not enough to actually do it the right way. It takes resolve to make things happen correctly. For some people, this comes easily, for others, it can be a struggle.
3. Planning
Having a good plan is basically the easiest way to achieve your goals. This is especially true for something that is as black and white as personal finance. Step 1, reign in spending. Step 2, reduce expenses... It's not rocket science. It is however, important to be thorough. It's not enough to finally be on top of your monthly expenses. You have to also consider your annual expenses, unexpected expenses and past expenses which you are still paying for but don't really think about.
4. Execution
Do it. If you impulse spend, stop. If you go out too much, go out less. This can't be more straightforward once you have a plan. If it's flaky, your plan needs fine tuning.
5. Persistence
Stick to it until x time passes. Having milestones helps. Anyways, if you continue at it for some time, 2 things should happen. Your financial situation will improve to the point where you are finally happy about it. Your new pattern will also eventually stick. Only when you are in your groove for several months and dare I say it, years, can you say with any certainty that you are succeeding.
I think I am at step 5. I have gone through a lot of growing pains, I have modified my budget and spending algorithms so many times it's mind blowing. I have made consistent progress for a relatively respectable amount of time for me. I'm feeling very good about it and this kind of positive self-reflection is important.
There there is 1 fundamental shift in my philosophy about money, it is that I finally am treating it like the finite source that it is, with care and restraint.